Podcast 2: Discussing Dating Dilemmas: Fantasy vs Reality with my friend B

Today’s conversation is with B; one of my closest friends. We hung out to discuss Dating Dilemmas: Fantasy vs Reality.

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So, here’s the backstory.

I met B when I was part of a Youth Group in London. I remember us having a conversation about religious studies, which turned into an argument; she thought it was easy as she was doing her GCSEs whereas I thought it was hard because I was doing my A-Levels. This led to a heated discussion because I thought she was a cheeky little bitch. How can you argue with me when you haven’t even started your A-Levels? What an arrogant arse. Long story short after that argument we became really good friends.

So, we caught up on Sunday to discuss romance scams and fantasies that women create in their heads about men that are not real. Here’s what we discussed:

Intro: Research on Romance scams

What is a romance scam? A romance scam is when someone grows to love and trust someone they’ve met through an online dating site, social media or a dating app. But the profile is fake and the dating scammer uses the person’s trust by playing on their emotions. They then get the victim to send money or hand over enough personal information to steal their identity.

In 2018, Action Fraud received 4,555 reports of romance fraud, each of the victims lost an average of £11,145, collectively losing more than £50,760,000. In addition, women represent 63% of victims, lost twice as much as men on average.

Here’s what I asked:   

1. What fantasies do women create in their minds that are not real with regards to dating? (02:25)
2. What do you think the reality is? (04:55)
3. How can women stop themselves from creating such fantasies? (06:34)
4. How do men participate in creating such fantasies? (08:58)
5. What did your mother tell you or teach you about dating and relationships? (13:52)
6. What did your father tell you or teach you about dating and relationships? (17:51)
7. What do you wish you were told about relationships? (19:43)
8. What would you tell your younger self about dating? (22:34)
9. What’s one resource you’d recommend my readers to check out on Instagram, YouTube or a podcast? (25:06)
10. What’s your definition of purpose? (26:35)

Mentioned on this podcast: Brene Brown on setting boundaries

I would like to thank B for joining me today!

The next podcast will be on dating from a male’s perspective- so stay tuned!

Love – Princess S

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